I was terrified when I went to my first bachelor party! I think I had been dancing for maybe three months, when I went on my first party, with the head girl at the club, whom we called 'Mama'. She was like our unofficial housemom. I'm grateful that they sent me with her, as she... Continue Reading →
Lately I've been thinking a lot about energy, especially the energy that is created from a large group of people, all zoned in on the same thing, whether it's a packed concert, a basketball game or a protest. The type of raw, emotional energy that develops is so powerful, and can create waves that go... Continue Reading →
Let's talk about emotional abuse. Emotional abuse is a BITCH. And unfortunately, it's a sneaky ass bitch as well. My first husband was the biggest asshole when we were together. 6'5 and hovering around 350 lbs, he used his size to intimidate everyone around him. He threatened and belittled me, he threatened and belittled his... Continue Reading →
Lately I've been having a lot of fun sprucing up my wardrobe, finding unique and colorful prints to add to my closet. Which got me to thinking about the first couple of years after dancing when I only wore black, gray or designs with those two colors. Straight up- I might as well have been... Continue Reading →
Last Saturday I met up with a girlfriend for a socially-distant gab fest, and we got onto the subject of universal energy, and personal timelines. I was telling my girlfriend about how much I don't enjoy summer, as much as I try to. I'm uncomfortable, I get lightheaded every time I stand up when it's... Continue Reading →
June has been a long, difficult, strange month. I went back to work in the beginning of the month, and of course there are all these COVID-restrictions to work around. This country has turned so ugly and amazing at the same time- there are so many racist and ignorant assholes turning out like they have... Continue Reading →
During my dancing career, I got to know 5 DJs pretty well. And I'm convinced that the people who become strip club DJs, the men especially, are a different breed of person. Yes, strip club managers and bouncers are in a similar boat of course. It's such a strange subculture, that naturally attracts those that... Continue Reading →
This is something that has been weighing on my mind and heart, and I know it's going on, and it makes me feel sick and sad. I'm talking about the regulars who used to have to be satisfied with seeing their favorite girl in the club, spending some time talking and feeling up on the... Continue Reading →
Be wary of the girls who immediately want to become BFFs with you. They probably have an ulterior motive that involves either a) robbing you blind b) getting you hooked on the same shit they're hooked on or c) both. Which brings me to my next one: ALWAYS ALWAYS LOCK YOUR SHIT UP. And do... Continue Reading →
With the pandemic interrupting our normal lives, one kind of business that is really struggling is one that "normal" person might not think of- the strip club. What is the future of strip club dancing? Although there are a lot of horny bastards that I'm sure would disagree, strip clubs are not 'essential businesses' and... Continue Reading →
