Back in the early 2000s when I was dancing, the topic of self-care hadn’t exploded yet. Things like mani/pedis, and massages were around, of course, but there wasn't the proliferation of self-care blogs and businesses like there is now. My version of self-care back then was to go tanning (eek, I know) and to get... Continue Reading →
In my mind, there are three main reasons that you would really regret your past relationships: 1) Abuse (Physical? Emotional? Both?) 2) Introduction to Drugs/Enablement 3) Financial Abuse I have been a victim of #1 & 3; Considering the crowd I once ran with, I am very lucky to have never partied to the point... Continue Reading →
There was this one customer who came stumbling in to the club on New Year's evening, about thirteen years ago. I was one of the first girls that walked up to him, and I remember him looking up at me with this dazed, glassy eyed look, and I thought, oh man this guy's all fucked... Continue Reading →
I actually started noticing some body changes about 1 year before I quit dancing. Specifically, less muscle tone. That was due to the lack of stage dancing.....which was due to lack of customers. Business dropped off dramatically around summer 2007, and never really recovered much, in the years after the Great Recession. Several big businesses... Continue Reading →
Ok. Ok. Ok. I've been working on pulling myself out of this hazy, unfocused state of mind (yes, some due to marijuana ingestion, of course) that I've been in for the last six weeks or so. A large part of it was the election, and then post-election anxiety and battling dread. I wish I had... Continue Reading →
I was just thinking about the old school, early 2000s technology that we had/used in the club that would be so archaic now. How big was your CD holder? Some chics would bring there's in tucked away in it's own damn wheeling suitcase. You would bring your case in at the beginning of the shift... Continue Reading →
I was terrified when I went to my first bachelor party! I think I had been dancing for maybe three months, when I went on my first party, with the head girl at the club, whom we called 'Mama'. She was like our unofficial housemom. I'm grateful that they sent me with her, as she... Continue Reading →
Lately I've been thinking a lot about energy, especially the energy that is created from a large group of people, all zoned in on the same thing, whether it's a packed concert, a basketball game or a protest. The type of raw, emotional energy that develops is so powerful, and can create waves that go... Continue Reading →
Let's talk about emotional abuse. Emotional abuse is a BITCH. And unfortunately, it's a sneaky ass bitch as well. My first husband was the biggest asshole when we were together. 6'5 and hovering around 350 lbs, he used his size to intimidate everyone around him. He threatened and belittled me, he threatened and belittled his... Continue Reading →
Lately I've been having a lot of fun sprucing up my wardrobe, finding unique and colorful prints to add to my closet. Which got me to thinking about the first couple of years after dancing when I only wore black, gray or designs with those two colors. Straight up- I might as well have been... Continue Reading →
