And I know I'm not alone. I have felt myself just wanting to read fantasy fiction, and/or contemporary teenage rom-coms, or do some mindless knitting while zoning out on Youtube videos...about knitting. There's this overhanging, low-level dread about the upcoming election and the chaos that will probably follow, no matter what the result is. Things... Continue Reading →
Some Bitch Stole My CD!
I was just thinking about the old school, early 2000s technology that we had/used in the club that would be so archaic now. How big was your CD holder? Some chics would bring there's in tucked away in it's own damn wheeling suitcase. You would bring your case in at the beginning of the shift... Continue Reading →
Micro Activism
Happy 1st of mutha fucking September! Okay, so I have to tell you about my little bit of activism in this age of division, and racism and bullshit. Now, I am not one to get super involved in politics and fighting for the greater good of mankind. Why? Because I tend to be more pro-planet,... Continue Reading →
Let’s Talk Bachelor Parties Shenanigans
I was terrified when I went to my first bachelor party! I think I had been dancing for maybe three months, when I went on my first party, with the head girl at the club, whom we called 'Mama'. She was like our unofficial housemom. I'm grateful that they sent me with her, as she... Continue Reading →
Energy Manifestation in the Age of COVID
Lately I've been thinking a lot about energy, especially the energy that is created from a large group of people, all zoned in on the same thing, whether it's a packed concert, a basketball game or a protest. The type of raw, emotional energy that develops is so powerful, and can create waves that go... Continue Reading →
In The Doghouse Again? Is It Emotional Abuse?
Let's talk about emotional abuse. Emotional abuse is a BITCH. And unfortunately, it's a sneaky ass bitch as well. My first husband was the biggest asshole when we were together. 6'5 and hovering around 350 lbs, he used his size to intimidate everyone around him. He threatened and belittled me, he threatened and belittled his... Continue Reading →
Post Stripper Life: Hiding in Plain Sight
Lately I've been having a lot of fun sprucing up my wardrobe, finding unique and colorful prints to add to my closet. Which got me to thinking about the first couple of years after dancing when I only wore black, gray or designs with those two colors. Straight up- I might as well have been... Continue Reading →
Season of Hibernation
Last Saturday I met up with a girlfriend for a socially-distant gab fest, and we got onto the subject of universal energy, and personal timelines. I was telling my girlfriend about how much I don't enjoy summer, as much as I try to. I'm uncomfortable, I get lightheaded every time I stand up when it's... Continue Reading →
Daddy Issues: Take 2
June has been a long, difficult, strange month. I went back to work in the beginning of the month, and of course there are all these COVID-restrictions to work around. This country has turned so ugly and amazing at the same time- there are so many racist and ignorant assholes turning out like they have... Continue Reading →
Stripclub DJs Are A Different Breed
During my dancing career, I got to know 5 DJs pretty well. And I'm convinced that the people who become strip club DJs, the men especially, are a different breed of person. Yes, strip club managers and bouncers are in a similar boat of course. It's such a strange subculture, that naturally attracts those that... Continue Reading →